Mother’s Day post-loss, part 1

There are no commercial Hallmark cards on the market for women who, by planned or unplanned means, have lost their offspring. I know this, yet nevertheless I looked for one when shopping for a Mother’s Day card for my own mom.
For every card I saw I knew that it had been created to sell a sentiment to someone who chose to walk in the store to sift through the embellished, decorative rows until they found “the right one”. How do they, and I, end up choosing the right one? We might connect with the art or the words, on the spectrum of sentimentality; sometimes it’s rooted in obligation. We gather our internal maternal experiences over time until the sum of the parts succinctly confirms we have found “the right one”.
It’s common for the gift-giver to visualize what the recipient mom will think and appreciate when they open the envelope. That guides their discovery. The moment of anticipation which surfaces, from both sides, when a gift is about to be exchanged is habitual and essential to the experience.